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Friday, December 09, 2005

Listen Without Prejudice...


I have a letter published in the Evening Standard today:

A lot of what George Michael says about the practical necessity of gay civil partnerships but not wanting to ape the institution of marriage makes sense (5 December). And I'd be the first to agree with him that gay open relationships are poorly understood by most people.

But whether Michael likes it or not, these types of open relationships aren't the norm even in the gay world - they are just one type of relationship. I should know. Having been in a long term gay relationship like Michael I too realise that it often requires the sort of trust that goes beyond mere fidelity. After the early stages of a relationship, it's love and understanding that binds you together, not sex. Being unfaithful is not the same as losing faith.

This is precisely where the new civil partnership shines. In the unfortunate event a partnership goes off the rails its dissolution could only be based upon the grounds of separation, desertion or unreasonable behaviour; adultery is explicitly excluded. So unlike marriage - which for so many couples ends in divorce and heartbreak on the basis of a moment of faithlessness - gay couples are free to make their own choices of what being faithful means and still be recognised under the law. As George says, we should listen without prejudice.



UPDATE: To those people who called or sent me messages of agreement or support I thank you. And to those people who sent me vile messages and hate e-mail... just ask yourselves what you are so afraid of?

6 comments:

  1. Calm, level-headed and factually accurate: readers of the ES letters page won't know what hit 'em!

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  2. Cheers, Scott. I actually wrote a much longer and in some ways ruder letter but agreed that it should be cut in length. Wouldn't want to ram it down their throats. Missus.

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  3. You're welcome.

    You may wish to know that Denise Pfeiffer, whose letter accompanied yours, also had a similar tome published earlier this week in the Guardian. She may have had other rubbish printed in other papers, but to be honest I just can't be fucked to look. It's not like she'd make any more sense anywhere else.

    What she doesn't say is that she is press officer of mediamarch, one of those right-wing groups (of the ilk of MediaWatch UK and Christian Voice) who believe that everything bad in the world is television's fault.

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  4. hooch1:34 am

    i refer to my post in the tagboard. hooch xxx

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