Last night Darce and I attended the Arsenal Philly Unhinged event at the glitzy World Cafe Live in glitzy Philadelphia.
Run by the amazing Philly supporters’ club honcho Stuart Nelson, the event brought together 100s of members of the Arsenal family from around the world. And we were proud to represent gaygooners on the night.
There was food, there was booze, there was entertainment - singing, a very funny slideshow about his home town by Badly Drawn Arsenal, a panel Q&A with Arseblog Andrew Mangan and Gunnerblog James McNicolas, and a bizarre drumming show from Philly Elmo.
Lots of Arsenal staff & other supporters groups & bloggers were there so we got to do a bit of networking to promote LGBTQ+ visibility of fans.
It was like pushing on an open door with some though. The Arsenal family do seem to get it.
Gilberto Silva and Theo Walcott were there too and I got a chance to chat to them about gaygooners and what we do. Such lovely guys. They signed my shirt too.
Perhaps most interesting though was to talk to Myles Lewis-Skelly’s mum. Myles is our #49, has played in our pre-season games in the US and assisted Martinelli’s winner against Man U last Saturday night. He is a rising star at Arsenal.
Myles’s mum Marcia Lewis is simply an amazing woman. As Myles worked his way through the perils of being scouted (age 3!), then signed, and now playing for Arsenal (age 17) Marcia was there every step of the way helping him understand the agents, the sponsors, the temptations, and the pressures her young son was going through. To help her son even better she actually studied and got a Masters degree in football business. At the end of the day she’s a mother and she knows how to say “no”. No to the wrong sponsors, no to box-ticking, and no to anything that might disadvantage her boy.
She insists Myles studies (taking A levels), he gets time off to recover, and he is fully informed of any decisions that affect him. Marcia empowers her son. It’s quite something.
She now runs a web site helping other parents of young footballers navigate the world of academy football too. And it’s a runaway hit.
“How would you feel if Myles told you he was gay?” I asked her.
“I’d hug him. I’m support him. I’d love him.”
Right answer.
Ayden Heaven’s mum was there too (our #76) and she said similar.
It’s good to know that if a young male player does come out at Arsenal there are wise and supportive family networks around them.
Naturally we had to get a photo with two such wonderful women. Proud Allies. 🏳️🌈🏳️⚧️